2% of women who experience an unplanned pregnancy place their baby for adoption. Considering the staggering number of unplanned pregnancies each year, that’s quite a small percentage, and the question is—why? Why do so many women who experience an unplanned pregnancy overlook adoption as an option?
While adoption isn’t right for every unplanned pregnancy, it’s often not even considered as an option. At Baker Victory Services Adoption, our goal is to help change the way many people think about adoption.
A long, long time ago, adoption wasn’t something that was openly discussed in most households—especially in the homes of adoptees and birth mothers. Feelings and questions were seldom discussed, and birth parents and adoptees alike often never knew what became of one another.
The good news is adoption has come a long way. Today, 80% of all adoptions are open. An open adoption allows the birth parents and adoptive family to establish a mutually agreeable relationship. Each party can decide how much contact they’d like to have—from seeing one another often, to exchanging letters or photos annually.
Open adoption has proven to be the most beneficial option for everyone involved. For the adoptive child, it answers questions like, “Who am I, who do I look like?” and, “Why did my birth mother decide to place me?” For the adoptive family, it helps knowing the child’s family medical history, and to learn more about their child’s birth mother. For the birth mother, it’s comforting to be a part of her child’s life, knowing that her child is being well taken care of.
If you know deep down you’re not ready or able to parent, just remember—open adoption doesn’t mean saying goodbye forever. It means you’re saying, “I love you,” “I want the best for you,” and “I’ll still be part of your life.”
Does learning that open adoption is an option change your perception about adoption? Why or why not? We’d love to hear from you in the comments.